![]() We added more consent equations into the formula: What happens if a partner is dishonest about their relationship status? What happens if your partner is dishonest about their sexual history or a past partner? What happens if your partner does not reveal their criminal history? What happens if someone does not reveal they may have an STI? What do you do if you realize, after the fact, that someone violated your consent? Do you owe forgiveness to someone who apologizes after violating your consent? The questions continued, and we realized that whenever consent is procured under false pretenses-that is, if details were withheld-consent is called into question and is likely violated. We reinterpreted past experiences and thought deeply about ways to be in more control in the future. For my friends and me, what would usually come as jokes and passing comments over a weekend with too many drinks came out over a 12-week reflection featuring video calls, text messages, and voice notes. These stories reflect what the real world looks like, and have led to a variety of pieces cataloging the kinds of conversations the show should spur. I May Destroy You’s mini consent stories put this notion on full display. For many people, when you’re involved in a sexual situation under any kind of false pretense, your consent was stolen. (After one assault, Kwame Googles whether nonconsensual humping is rape, but he already knows something is wrong before the internet validates his feelings.) What is uncertain is whether the violation is captured within the law-and what, if any, consequences the perpetrator should face. But what the show illuminated and my friends-who in some way or another, are all survivors- confirmed, is that it’s never uncertain if you’re the victim. ![]() ![]() I May Destroy You transformed my group chats, DMs, and weekly phone catch-ups into intense discussions on whether the characters’ consent was violated, and whether the violation was debatable or clear-cut. Each incident forces you to question what’s wrong and what’s right, but you may end up thinking it’s all in the gray area. But as the show continues, its characters are involved in more complicated sexual interactions, where consent is given, and then circumstances change. You cannot consent if you are unconscious, drugged, or physically forced. It turned out I had been sexually assaulted by strangers.Thanks for signing up! You can manage your newsletter subscriptions at any time.Īrabella, as well as the detectives assigned to her case, quickly label her assault rape. I emerged into consciousness typing season two, many hours later. I took a break and had a drink with a good friend who was nearby. "I was working overnight in the company's offices," recalled the 33-year-old performer, who is nominated for both her acting and writing on I May Destroy You. In 2018, Michaela delivered a lecture at the Edinburgh International Television Festival and shared that she is a real-life survivor of sexual assault. She described a time when she regained consciousness and realized she had been raped while finishing an assignment as a writer on her series Chewing Gum, which helped inspire her newest show's story line. I May Destroy You centers on a TV writer named Arabella Essiedu (Michaela) who struggles with moving forward in her life after she is drugged and raped. ![]() 19, the HBO series' creator and star Michaela Coel picked up the trophy for Outstanding Writing for a Limited Series. I May Destroy You is one of the most-nominated comedies at 2021 Emmys Awards, but there's definitely real-life pain behind it. ![]()
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